I wish I could tell you that love has been the primary emotion coursing through my veins and motivating me throughout life. But that would be a lie. The truth is that fear has been the dominant emotion driving me, haunting my days and diminishing my life. And saying that leaves me feeling both ashamed and vulnerable.

I'm not talking about the kind of fear one feels when faced with a spider (though I confess I've got a bad case of arachnophobia!) I'm talking about something more insidious. The fear of rejection. The fear of not being good enough. The fear of failure. These fears have been, at times, so overpowering that they've stifled my creativity, hindered my ambitions, and made me too cautious to take risks.

But I've learned over time that these fears don't make me weak. They make me human. While your fears may be different than mine, I'd be willing to bet that fear sometimes haunts you, hinders you from risking more and being more.

While fear is often seen as a negative emotion to avoid, the truth is that by embracing and understanding it, we can unlock a whole new level of resilience and confidence. Fear doesn't have to be a foe to be conquered - it can be a friend to be embraced. By befriending fear, we can learn to see it as a valuable guide that can lead us to greater growth and fulfillment.

So, how might we do that? How can we change our perspective and see fear not as an enemy, but as a friend? The idea may seem far-fetched at first, but allow me to guide you through this transformation.

While serving as a Lutheran pastor for 36 years I learned two things about forgiveness.

1. Almost everyone has someone that they struggle to forgive.

2. Almost everyone carries misconceptions about forgiveness, and those misconceptions are often the reason that people struggle to forgive.

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Meet Sarah…

…a skilled and determined manager at a successful tech company. Known for her exceptional project management abilities, she now faces a dilemma that has left her uneasy. Sarah paces nervously in her office, dreading an important conversation with her team member, Alex.

Alex, a talented and creative individual, has been missing deadlines and showing signs of disengagement lately. Sarah knows she can't avoid addressing the issue any longer, but thethought of the conversation fills her with anxiety. She worries it may turn into a confrontation, with emotions running high and her authority being challenged.

The Challenge of Difficult Conversations

We've all experienced the challenge of handling difficult conversations at work, just like Sarah. These conversations often involve addressing performance issues, providing constructive feedback, or discussing uncomfortable topics such as personal boundaries or conflicts within the team.

The fear and anxiety we feel before these discussions can be overwhelming. We tend to create scenarios in our minds, predicting defensiveness, anger, or tears. These stories we tell ourselves only deepen our anxiety and uncertainty.

But here's the good news - there are steps we can take to navigate difficult conversations effectively, achieving positive outcomes and strengthening relationships.

The movie The Matrix begins with the main character, Neo, wrestling with a sense of discontent. He intuits that there's more than he's experiencing and longs to experience it. Sound familiar?

Most of us experience seasons of discontent, times when we long for more than what we're currently experiencing, discontent with "what is". Unfortunately, our culture doesn't value discontent. Instead we're encouraged to distract ourselves. We…

Shop
Drink
Self-medicate
Binge on Netflix… or cheesecake

Or we tell ourselves to "get a grip and be grateful for what we have".

But what if discontent isn't a curse? What if it's not something to be avoided or ignored? What if it's a gift, a gift worth unwrapping, savoring and attending to?

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